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The Four Agreements IV - Always Do Your Best



Upon your human birth, it’s as if the outer world handed you a book of law.


And that book of law would offer you its suggestions specific to your self-worth, to your gender role, to your religious sensibilities, to your career possibilities and beyond.


That book of law would offer you its suggestions specific to the clothes you wear, to the holidays you celebrate, to the foods you love, to the neighborhood you inhabit, to the salon you frequent, to the music you buy, to the car you drive, to the spouse you choose and beyond.


And even in those earliest of days, in the grand adventure that is a human incarnation we begin to absorb and accept and then to embody and imitate, and finally to impose and insist.


And so it is that childhood curiosity and ultimately divine diversity get sacrificed on the altars of human homogeny and comfortable conformity, generation after generation.

I remember those December mornings in Osawatomie, Kansas, going downstairs dressed in my cowboy boots and my 10-gallon hat (true story), my six-shooter strapped to my waste. But at no point did it occur to me to say, “Grandma, will we be celebrating Christmas or Hanukkah this year?” “Will we be acknowledging the principles of Kwanzaa this year, Grandma?”


At no point did it occur to me because my book of law suggested that December would draw to a close, as at always did, with an evergreen tree somehow poised in one of those awkward red bowls with the green legs and the chrome screws (how could something so simple be so hard to assemble) one of those awkward red bowls with the green legs and the chrome screws, covered in lights, topped with a star and surrounded with gifts, just like Jesus.


And this brings us to an important awakening about these books of law: they are brimming with lies. Entire lives have been constructed upon books of law brimming with lies passed from generation to generation about self and other. And let it not go unsaid that entire lives have been constructed upon books of law brimming with lies passed from generation to generation about life and truth and God.