Dinner With Others Questions

Questions on “Dinner With Others” Cards - "What Divides Us?"

1. Have you ever found it difficult to relate to someone who was either much wealthier or much poorer than you? What happened? What were the consequences? What would you have wished to have been different? What did you learn?

2. Have you ever felt discriminated against because of your gender? Have you ever witnessed another having this difficulty? What happened? What was your response? What do you wish had happened? What did you learn?

3. Have you ever dealt with someone when it became clear that a difference in your education made communication more difficult? What happened? What might you have wished could have happened? What did you learn?

4. Have you ever been discriminated against because of your race? Have you ever witnessed another being discriminated against? What was your response? What happened? What do you wish you could have done? What did you learn?

5. Have you ever felt separate from someone because of a difference in your religious identification or your religious beliefs? What happened? What were the consequences? What do you wish might have happened? What did you learn?

6. Have you ever felt discriminated against because of your nationality? Have you witnessed another having such difficulties? What happened? What did you do? What might you now wish you had done? What did you learn?

7. We often feel different from others because of age differences. Have you ever felt that you didn’t fit in because of your age? Have you ever witnessed another having this kind of difficulty? What happened? What were the consequences? What do you wish you had done? What did you learn?

8. In a population as divided as ours politically, it is rare that we can avoid conflicts with others. Have you ever experienced conflicts rising from differing political priorities? What happened? What were the consequences? What do you wish might have happened? What did you learn?

9. Different work situations often involve different vocabulary, different social status, and different financial rewards. Have you ever been in a situation in which you experienced being separate from others whose employment realities were different from your own? What happened? What were the consequences? What did you learn?

10. Illness often separates us from others. Have you ever had the experience of feeling separate either because you or another was not well? What was the situation? What happened? What do you wish could have happened? What did you learn?

11. Those of us who are disabled in one way or another often have special challenges navigating our environment and feel separate from others. Have you ever been disabled yourself or had to deal with another who was? What happened? What did you do? What do you wish you had done? What did you learn?

12. We are different from each other in many ways and can feel separate because we think we are too tall, too short, too skinny, too heavy, too awkward…. Have you ever had the experience of feeling uncomfortably different in your body, or have you been with those who did? What happened? What did you do? What do you wish you had done? What did you learn?

Two Questions for Dinner Conversations

When have you felt most different from those around you? When have you felt like you simply didn’t belong? What happened? What were the consequences? Is there anything you wish you had done differently? What did you learn?

When have you felt most connected to those around you? When have you felt that you most belonged? What happened? What were the consequences? Is there anything you wish you had done differently? What did you learn?